Arranged Marriage..is it?

        Recently when I was involved in a conversation with my customer (UK based) he suddenly asked me a question; He asked “Do arranged marriages still happen in India?” I smiled and answered –“Yes”. He was in a shocked state and disappointed too, all he said was “I cannot believe this. How does this happen?”

       I guess we have many people out there who fit in for an “arranged marriage”! May it be out of choice or may it be on compulsion

        Few reasons as to how do you fit in for an arranged marriage would be - “Dint find my Mr. Perfect so far”, “Dint fall in love with the right person hence can’t take further chances and tolerate any more heart breaks”, “Fell in love with the right person but dint end up being together so that is the end of it”, “Never fell in love” (Though I find this reason insane for normal human being), “Was completely focused on my career growth at my 20’s and plus, and its already too late now to take in chances ,to fall in love”(I think age doesn’t matter to fall in love) or the most famous one would be “I trust my parent’s choice and I want to keep them happy”, Reasons would be never ending!

        Keeping the reasons apart, now that one is here, this is what you would need to go through- A total crappy process yet looks beautiful if everything goes out to be fine. Now that you are IN, here is all that you have to take! “Pain” OR “Gain” you judge it yourself.

What is it?

DEFINITION: Risk taken by an individual to spend entire life with a stranger with hopes of having beautiful life together forever.
 The entire process of getting oneself hooked with someone in an arranged marriage- This is the way it goes (I may not be absolutely correct in mentioning the process as I am not familiar to this and I guess this process also differs with respect to different states and castes.)

PROCESS

A SHEET OF PAPER   – This is a sheet of paper that is designed based on your date and time of birth which holds your complete details (bio-data) and would be passed on to those people with whom you would like to take chance with. This sheet of paper is called horoscope. This sheet would also contain your height, age, work company details etc etc .Similar to your “resume” when one is in search of job. The only difference here is you are in search of a “person” and not job. Based on this sheet of paper, (comparing the horoscope of both guy and gal) one would actually tell you how compatible you are with each other, how well you get along etc. Strange that people trust this sheet more than themselves. Once the person you believe (This person makes money here with this job) tells you that your horoscope is a match, you can go ahead. Then it follows the next step.

SAY CHEESE – Since your horoscope is declared “good to go ahead”, next is the exchange of photograph. Of course one should know how the partner looks before they say a “yes” or a “No”. Trust me now that you are on sale the best you look in the photograph the more you are on demand! May it be photo effects or may it be natural. The photographer would ask you say cheese and click from all angles to make you look your best in the photo. Your photo may be a “pass” to him/her or “fail”. If it’s a pass, then there you go further.

CHECK THEM OUT – Now that there are high chances of you getting hooked up as the photograph is a “pass” you would definitely want to make sure that you are getting into the right family. So you just do a check on family background directly or indirectly with the help of family friends, cousins, neighbors, colleagues (In short trying to collect as much information as possible with all known people, who knows about the person you chose, the family, and the background/past). Lot of miscommunication happens at this phase as people are more interested in other family matters. Now that you give them a chance, why would they ignore it..!
If you are the only daughter or only son - then you are just great, who the hell cares about your negative points, After all you will be the Owner of kingdom after your parents! Also if you are a part of a big family with rich dad and big status you are on high demand.

FACE TO FACE – After all the above steps if you have still retained your interest of sticking onto arranged marriage then here you go for “face-to-face” meet with the person of your choice (sorry! Did I just say your choice?! I meant to say the world’s choice for you). Both families decide to meet up, along with the guy and gal giving them a chance to look at each other and talk to each other.(Early days Location would have been temple, own house with gal in a traditional saree serving tea/coffee but now we have improved to meet at CCD etc and place an order for Coffee) .I don’t know what one would talk to a total stranger (I don’t find topics to talk to a “known” person when I am one on one with them), what details one would share with a stranger.Morever “TRUST” – how? Lucky those years 2010 and plus gives chances of multiple meets before a guy/gal makes their precious decision (Am I supposed to say we have improved :P)

SIGN OFF DEAL -  So the final decision of being REJECTED(for whatsoever reasons it may be-like your height, weight, looks,past,family,character,age,job, Sometimes even for the most silly reasons which is not even your fault) OR decision of being SELECTED is declared to the other family and the date of wedding is fixed. Wait a min! Did I miss to say the Sign-off deal includes the dowry matters as to how much would you pay(may it be in terms of money,gold,estate,car etc.) to get yourself selected.
In short, you are hired! You would have lost your patience during this process and at times you would have also felt that you should NOT have opted for an arranged marriage. Basically you are now here to start a new life filled with responsibilities and risks with an unknown person. [I missed to add the word “happiness” in previous sentence :P ]Hope you have chosen the right person and are being lucky..!

Was just wondering if I could make my customer read this blog ;) –Because all I told him that moment was “Arranged marriages does happen in India and works out many a times” :)

Confused Mind....!!

Please Note :  This was written long back, just found it in my old book when i flipped through the pages.

I simply don’t know what I feel for you.

But I know you are special to me.

I want you to be with me

I want to spend time with you

I want to talk to you

I want to laugh with you

You said you too wish the same

Then why did you let go

I dint say – “move on”

Nor did I say – “Wait for me”

Deep down my heart I wished  

You would take a turn to look back at me.

I know my silence said it all

I may not have agreed to give you happiness

Doesn’t mean I wished to give you sorrows

I still respect and value you the same

And you will remain special to me ever.

I know you need time

You cannot be the same friend to me again

Dont hate me

Because I am not that BAD at all.

Its a New day tomorrow ..!

We often say – “Things change” – so do people ;) If you scratch your head to find a reason for change, you hardly find it!

Inspite of being a strong person at heart,being a person with  least expectations, there might have been some situations in each one of your life where accepting the change and digesting the present fact have been very difficult for you.Sometimes none would be able to guide you out of such situations.You feel lost, angry and helpless.You realize the sinking feeling.

If you ask me why one feels so difficult to accept the present I really don’t know.Elders would say – “Every change happens for good”. I have never understood what does the word good mean when they say this!.They also say – “Everything will be alright soon”. This is other way of saying – “You would feel better once you have accepted the change”, Smart elders and we are the fools :P Ultimately every person needs to fight their own battle –all Alone !

For me things keep changing often – Everytime I feel I have reached a stage where I actually fit in somewhere, I suddenly find myself in an unfamiliar place again.I convince myself or rather I would say I fool myself by blaming everthing on destiny :P

Life is never balanced,never easy!Same way change is not always acceptable but do you really have a choice ?! Many a times “NO”

You cannot question “why” because you will never find an answer.All you have to know is a day just goes on, and a day ends. A new day would start again tomorrow !

Get to know someone Random !

She was away from the entire world for a long time, She enjoyed being alone, She was once famous for being talkative and notorious and now famous for her silence. She had learnt smile can never hurt others whereas words do,So the only answer she gave to everyone now for all their questions was a Smile.Indeed a sweet smile!!She dint like to socialize anymore. She loved loneliness, pen, paper and books  more than people!she pushed herself away  from all people may it be good or bad. Thus she was for almost year and a half!

One fine day she receives an email, Content included – “I would be visiting your place, wanna meet?”The moment she saw the e-mail there was no second thought and she immediately sent a reply – She typed “Sure, We can catch up”. This was basically because the sender was the person whose work she had always admired and have always wanted  to meet. That night they exchanged few messages about the meet.

Next day was like any other normal day, A small get together meet was planned in the evening !When the time of meet was near she was not able to be “herself”. She could sense a strange feeling and she was not sure to judge what is it?! Is it the excitement,happiness or is it the fear? Mind couldn’t make sense  and that’s when she picks up her phone,quickly dials her friend’s number and says about the meet. She says – “something is troubling me, I really don’t know what!”

No idea how big Thanks she owes to her friend today who answered her.Her friend said – “Look at you, what’s gone wrong ?? You were not the same when we were together at college,You dint even spare the college guardian and peon from your dialy talks and morning wishes.You  socialized a lot then. You have pushed yourself into a shell for no mistake of yours. Its high time for you to come out of your shell.Come out before you loose yourself completely”.She said “ok ,thanks for those words,talk to you you later,” and there ended the call with her friend.

She sat down for few seconds and quickly had a recap on every single chapter of her life.Details of her life plastered all over! She smiled and got ready for the quick evening meet.

The meet was extremely  beautiful.Her meet included two most lovely people on the earth and she enjoyed every tiny bit of it.The talks,games,dinner,cake-cutting etc etc.She was amazed and moreover surprised to see their simplicity.She had admired their work  but now she admired them more than their work ! Once she knew them it was never like she had not known them before. Probably she is still searching for the perfect words  to describe those two wonderful folks she met ! She had her best day. Just before the bye she felt like giving them a hug and saying  – “you guys are fantastic”.But she shushed her little voice.

She had taken the first step out of her Shell ! She realized that she had been away from the beautiful world all these days !

Life doesn’t throw only right things at you, Sometimes it throws wrong things at you and thus you value “THE RIGHT”… Though things go wrong,continue to see the world the same way like you did see it before, love the world the same way like you loved it before.Remember the whole world is not bad !! 

When was the last time you made someone happy !

 Nah ! Here I am not talking about impressing  “xyz”  by gifts! Let me convey the message quick and easy!

Just imagine,that you are out with a big group of your friends  on a great trip ! How do we place ourselves among the crowd!? Ofcourse, we plan a trip to relax ourselves ,to see new places and make sure we enjoy it to the fullest .Thats what even I would do.Have fun,play,dance,sing,pose  crazily for the photos,love the sight of beautiful places etc.All these days any  trip to me meant only this. But recently  I found out that a trip could be, more than “Just Fun”.

Do  you see this ?

A friend of you,might be lost in his/her thoughts and looks disturbed

Did you happen to notice this?-This friend of you might be part of the fun,talks,laughter among you but yet completely lost.Go,sit next to this friend and talk,Give a hug, Make him/her feel better.How does it feel when the same friend says – “There’s  a deep pain within me,which I remember often,But now I know there are more colours to Life and I am missing out on it, Thanks”.

A friend of you might be standing far away, watching you when you are on a high ride/water etc.-
Did you happen to notice this?-
This friend of you is too scared of heights. Who is happy to see others enjoying the high rides , Want to try but yet too scared of heights.

Get this friend,hold the hand and take him/her to the ride along with you, Ask this friend to trust you,nothing worse is gonna happen.How does it feel when the same friend tries the ride for the first time with fear and then comes back to you,hugs you and says “That was not as scary as I thought, Thanks buddy.!”

A friend of you might be a new one in the group

Did you happen to notice this? – 
This friend of you is a little uneasy because , all are new to him/her.Trying to mingle but needs  little more time.

Be with this friend,interact,get him/her involved in all your talks,Make him/her  laugh.

How does it feel when the same friend says – “ I had a nice day. Now that I know all of you now,it doesn’t  feel  like I had not known you before”

This  blog was written only with respect to a trip,Who knows , there may be many such people who badly need someone to make them happy and smile though in a small way !- May it be your own friend,loved one, a person sitting next to you at office, or a person who just waved you a hi ;)

If you happen to notice, then you know what you have to do ! - Its worth making someone happy and making  someone SMILE !

Do you remember when was the last time you made someone happy? – If  “YES” ,then there is going to be a next time too, Because you know how it feels . If “NO”, then it’s not too late to begin with,because you will know it’s the best feeling to make someone SMILE  though its only  for a moment :)

Tender Heart

Is there someone who knocks at your door?

Is there someone who begs you to give a chance to make your life beautiful?

Is there someone who wants to fill your life with colours?

OR

is it the other way round-

Is there someone who wants to see light in his/her dark life and likes you to be the bright light that could shine in his/her life forever?

Is there someone whose life is an open book filled with blank pages and likes you to be the one to fill colours to the pages of his/her book forever?

What would you do?

When your mistakes, reflects in front of you, you regret and then you stop.

You don’t go ahead as you might fall.

You don’t trust as you might breakdown.

You don’t splash colours because the only colours you have is black and white.

You don’t want to be the light since you are lost in darkness.

A new person knocks the door again. You ask your heart-“Shall I open the door or keep it closed?”

You wonder -what about those, who have knocked the door long back and still wait for the door of your heart to open.

Choice would be the only one.

But would you ever make a choice?

If YES, would it be the right choice?

My Tender Heart –“Why don't you speak?”

Dreams -Chase it !

Every person has the right to own a dream. Dreams are never an easy catch for everyone. One need to pay the price for his/her own dreams. Sometimes it’s the easy way and sometimes it’s the hard way.

Each time you chase your dreams what if your dreams are pushed to “The end”? Who on the earth will you blame?

‘You’                   – For being too slow and late in running behind your dreams

‘Dreams’              – For being crushed just when it bloomed

‘Destiny’              – For the twist it brought just when you realized you are a step closer to your dreams.

Mind will be in too much of a whirl to make sense. If you say “It’s all over”, then you may always regret about the things you dint finish. On one end you might try to make sense out of life but on the other end you might sound very sensible analyzing the present. You may feel that you have jumped into a carpet bag.

You are not doomed. It requires guts to get up and chase your dreams again. Remember when the road to your dreams gets blocked it always means that there is another way out! Find it out and you will definitely see it!

So what are you waiting for? Get up and start running behind your dreams! Never ever give up until you reach it! Good Luck!!!!

Thanks,sorry,forgive,forget !

BEFORE: [I thought ] – The world is beautiful because of these words!

“Thanks” - A word that can be used as a way of gesture for a person who  has helped you in any possible way! A word from heart to the person who made you smile and happy!

               But I learnt  and felt the real meaning of Thanks when I had to hear - “Thanks, You made me realize life is painful”

“Sorry” – A word that re-joins the broken bond, this word brings a smile on fuming face.Interms of misunderstandings,this single word unites the loved ones and brings them closer!

                But I learnt and felt the real meaning of Sorry when I had to hear – “Sorry, It’s all over between me and you”

“Forgive” – A word that makes one forget all the grudges, also reduces long gap among people and helps to turn two people from enemies to friends!

                But I learnt  and felt the real meaning of Forgive when I had to hear – “Forgive me because I was once part of your life”

“Forget” - A word  that gives you relief from your past mistakes,vanishes  your  worries, that

can make your regrets and pains to disappear!

                But I learnt  and felt  the real meaning of Forget when I had to hear – “Forget me for once and forever”

AFTER : [Now I think] -The world would have been more beautiful without these words !

For all those who  feel life is beautiful with these words,think twice at every step of your life and act accordingly as its better to make sure that these words never come to you in a hard way !

Did i do a "Mistake" ?

Lost is the “understanding” we shared

Lost is the “attachment” we had

Lost is the “deep bonding” we developed

Lost are the days when I could read your thoughts even before your speech

I spent days and nights together

With a wound of guilt seep in

Never did I let those tears pour from my eyes

Nor did I let my heavy heart speak out those words

I swallowed the pain of guilt

Being myself, being strong

Being away from the world

All alone

I asked same question everyday to myself

“Where did we lose our care for each other?”

I blamed myself every moment

“Did I do a mistake?”

Thousand thoughts running across my head all day

And me Eager to flush out all running thoughts at once

But it was time to choose

Whether  ”to hold on”  or “to let go"

I was searching for answers within me

Never were those questions answered by me

I realised   “sorry” was  too short to say

I realised   “Don’t leave me” was too much to ask for

Lost is the “love” and “care”

Lost is the “me”  in “you”

Lost is the “us” in “we”

“Lost”  forever and ever

Act smart,each second does count !

INCIDENT TIME  : 11.30 pm

Like everyday even today,I happened to board my late night cab(provided by the Company,with security guard)But all days are never the same,u never know when things go wrong ! That day  turned out to be different!!

After two ladies drop,the next drop was a lady.She got down and tried calling someone from her cell[This went on  for 10 mins]….Our cab dint move,as we were waiting for her to get in …Later we all realized that her hostel gate was locked and she had to call a person to get it unlocked.Finally a man(hostel warden) came down from stairs and unlocked the gate.She got in,(before that warden could lock the gate again,drunkard above 40 plus age suddenly happened to enter the gate from the street and touch our lady employee who was in a hurry to enter her hostel… Our cab was taking a turn,but  driver had to put a brake,bcos she screamed aloud continuously !!!! She was our responsibility !We would make sure nothing goes wrong with her !Security guard got down from the cab and warned the drunkard..Though he was not in his senses, he did not listen to our guard,so cab driver had to get down to put things in the right place,But  nothing worked until security raised his  hand(which was needed to protect a lady).As he was too drunk,he dint trouble after that.Now after this entire scene it was time to drop all remaining employees. There was not a single soul on that road. Driver,security guard got into cab, Before they could close the cab door ,Suddenly out of nowhere a group of five young guys got into our cab,pulled our driver, guard outside.They asked all of us to get down questioning “This is our area and how can you touch anyone here”.Though we tried our level best to tell what was the incident,they were in no patience to listen…Luckily lady employees were not touched but guy employees including guard and driver were hit real bad ! Things fell into place once they felt its enough and we happened to reach our respective places.

This blog is not to tell you how did we manage to be safe.Its to tell you ,what shouldn’t  be done during such incidents

1)      Don’t Panic – Its scary and unexpected but still try not to freak out in such situations. Try to stay calm and little easy.If  you freak out,there is nothing you can do other than making others around you panic too!I am saying this because I saw  few people who started to cry in the cab, I told them to go and sit in the back seat and there is nothing to worry until we all are around!

2)      Don’t ever get down mid way (specially if you are a lady) – When the fight is on,don’t try to simply get down from the cab and start walking ,when you really don’t know which area you are in and what is the direction you have to follow to reach your place.Because you never know if you are followed.The company cab will definetly not leave you mid road. Have patience and trust them!!

3)      Choose your words and actions carefully – Its always better to choose your words and actions carefully rather than letting the fight grow-up..Its ok if you compromise and let it go instead of shouting at high voice and loosing temper which worsens the situation!

4)      Act Smart – Its understood that you will first call the transport for help.But Make sure your help reaches you fast.There can be some people to help you nearby, faster than transport  help .You may have your own smart ways of escape(like the pepper spray etc) .If situation is too worse that you have no other go then use it!

So Guys and Gals, Never wait for help because each second counts !! Act Smart before its too late ! :)

I wanna slow down ..!!

Oh Crap!! My days are running like hell.I am hardly realising it either.All that I know is I open my eyes and then I am off to office ,by the time I am back to my room its time to sleep and my eyes are so damn adamant that they never agree to keep itself open after some point.I am totally out of this world..Damn this routine life.

Every morning I wake up saying today I will be “ME” but Nah, I still miss being me!

I have many interests in line one behind the other ..so many things I wanna do,learn and live with,enjoy with  and I feel time is too less,but  for now I wanna write for gods sake,Gimme a pen and a paper…I will Scribble is what I felt when I was busy with my keyboard at office  solving some issues at work.Its been  a total hectic month for me.I know I had to enjoy what I was doing,I had to enjoy my work, I also know I need to concentrate on the work  that I do at office.But since its been days that I dint write anything (Not even my diary)I was totally restless.This happens to me everytime when I miss to write something . A kind of disease I guess…I  really don’t know what can I name this disease.It takes my senses off until I write my heart out .I  feel totally relaxed once I finish any write-up.I feel the joy within.

  

I was trying  to grab every  single minute where I get a chance to write.Since past three weeks it was not happening on a regular basis for some reasons. I used to think daily that I would write something today and would sit awake late night, finish off few lines and then i would find myself lying my head on my book instead of pillow next day morning ! Weekends I had commitments that I couldnot dare to miss.I felt like carrying a pen and my book everywhere I go and start writing though its some function, party, traveling, etc.But yeah I cant do that for obvious reasons.Thought to buy a laptop only for writing purpose too..Atleast it would help me to write when i travel if not other mentioned occasions.But that dint happen either.I was away from reading too due to busy schedule.All I could manage to do was a quick copy paste of random blogs from Channel W in Microsoft word at office and manage to read it by EOD.I could not even comment on those blogs what I read..Such a pathetic state I was in. :( I wanted to slow down the running days of my life.

After a gap of three weeks without writing, today a Friday evening at office I put a complete full stop to all my priority work and before I could go completely insane without writing,I made sure I scribble at least few lines on notepad. And that’s how this blog came up.

Not worth posting but still I did post.

"A day"- see with difference

Everyday would end before I hardly realize my day has begun. Days just pass whereas I am totally indulged in my busy schedule. Today I wanted my day to be different. I want to see the world around me is what I thought. It’s the same place, the same normal-like day, same roads, same office and same schedule but still with a difference.All I decided to do is watch what’s going on around me in a different manner just for a day and thus began my day today

Every day when I go to office, I would sit in my cab with full-on music with eyes closed (feeling the lyrics of songs) and head rested on the seat or the second option would be I would be busy flipping pages of novel that I read .Today for a change I only put on my head set , played  light music .Today I kept the window of my cab open. I was sitting right near to the window. The cool breeze was making me feel the chill of weather. And as decided I was watching everything around me through the window. My cab had to put a break at one place due to traffic signal. There I saw a lady standing with her two kids on the street (a baby gal n a boy).Both kids were in their school uniform neatly dressed with a tie and shoes and a two sided bag on their back plus their lunch bag. They were waiting for school van I suppose. The boy was elder and the gal was younger .she looked like nursery going and the boy probably High school, I assumed. I was in the bus so all i could see was only the actions. The young gal was cranky abt going to school .Her face expression said it all. Mother talks to her son. Her son nods his head to what his mom told him and then immediately her elder son kisses his sister on her forehead and whispers something. The baby gal smiles. I wanted to see more of it but my cab started moving ahead. Probably mom gave some idea to her son to bring her daughter out of cranky mood is what I thought.

As my cab was moving ahead I saw a lady with uniform cleaning the roads, pushing all the fallen leaves n dust  on the road away with broom ...It looked like that was her daily duty and she would be paid for it. I also saw a van of school kids all in school uniform...I peeped into the van. This was the best, as I saw two kids in deep sleep in the van. One kid was snoring with mouth open. Among other kids three kids were playing among themselves with their hands, talking to each other .The other kid was with book open mugging up something. One more boy was busy looking outside the window. He looked at me all of a sudden. I smiled and waved him bye. He smiled too but no bye. May be he was too shy to wave a bye or maybe his parents might have warned not to be too friendly with strangers in a city which is actually good.

There we go, our cab stuck in between traffic. People were fed up waiting for traffic to get cleared. Frustration was seen on their face but I don’t know i was totally chilled out n all happy. All these tiny things that I was watching were making me happy. 

Now I could see a building construction that was going on through the window .How they load cement pull it up, and then unload the cement in it and again the process continues. Next inside my cab I could see a gal trying to pick eye lash fallen on her frens cheek n give it in her frens hands. Simultaneously, I could see people getting down their vehicles going at the side and bending down to get a peep of traffic as to when the traffic might get cleared. I could read frustration of waiting, on few people’s face.I observed a guy with his friend behind him on bike (He was calm probably was the only guy who was chilled out among many around who were totally frustrated of traffic) my cab moved a little front n now it stood next to another bus. Now i could see a gal in deep sleep inside the other bus near the window. I thought lucky gal who got fourty five extra mins to sleep in the bus bcos of traffic. ;) There was another gal in the same bus playing some game in her cell. There was a cartoon n some bridge kind of bars. All she had to do was make the cartoon jump over that bridge, one bridge after one...I could see she completed two levels and then my bus started moving again.

It started raining. The moment it started raining I cud see raindrops on my window n later it had covered all over the window pane. The lady who was in front seat of me closed the window as it started raining. I wanted to open it. When it started raining heavily i did open the window. I put my hand out. Tried to collect the rain drops but it’s difficult to do so, collecting rain water drops in hands is not an easy task.The gal who had closed the window turns back n looks at me. I gave her a smile. She could see me stretching both my hands out n playing in the rain...She smiles back at me n shifts to sum other seat.(I thought that was an indication that now I can open the window fully and enjoy the rain)By then the traffic was cleared n slowly my cab starts moving. Now i wanted to put my face out through the window and get it wet and i did it but not completely as i had to be aware of my one n only one head. Could not take a risk on that .Also that Wipro’s tiny little work was dependent on this head now. ;) Then came my office. Not to forget music was on all the way to keep me full on to observe all this.

I don’t know the reason but I had the best feeling that day. I felt Life is very beautiful and I am missing nothing in it. Every person on this earth can find happiness but just that only few people will happen to see it and rest are too busy looking at the negative side of life day to day. Life comes once, Love it and Live it.

I wonder why is it so.. ??!!

Every day and every moment I feel you by my side

Every now and every then I see you in my ride

Every minute I realize I miss you so

Every second I wonder why is it so

I think of you day and night

I want you to hold me tight

I think of you never leaving me

I want you to believe me

There’s no shine I see in the sun

There’s no light I see in the moon

There’s no love I feel within

There’s no joy I feel within

I feel you near

Hope someday you hear

I feel you close

Hope someday I never loose

'ME' and 'LIFE'

It is always said “Best lessons of Life are learnt only after experience”.I never agreed to this statement. I always argued saying “Best lessons of life” can be learnt by knowing others experiences, U can always learn from everyone. But I recently found that there is infact lots of differences when u learn from others and when you experience yourself. And trust me this difference is not tiny but very huge.


The kind of feeling I went through for an year almost.I had lost the continuity of life for some reasons.My Life was going on a superfast rollercoaster ride,so many  ups  and downs.There was something lacking in everyting I do.The feel  of lack of happiness and satisfaction every now and then.I would be part of fun with my friends, laugh with them, go to work but could not feel the happiness to the fullest .Nothing seemed right at times ! Everything just too messy around me and when things were going on right track, there it slips again! I wished to press "PAUSE" button of my Life if i had an option.


It was a fight between me and Life. Every second I had to fight back. And c’mon Thanks to this wonderful Society, How lovely it is.The society laughs with u when u r laughing but when u cry,again it laughs at u, some pity on you ,Some see u and make sure they utilize every chance to make fun of u and and some who will catch u half the way and then disappear in between. I hate to say I had to place few people who were in my heart ,away from my heart, they had lost their value n my respect towards them in this phase of my Life. Also few gained my respect and I valued them.Each time I moved forward all these would push me back again ! I was trying to get myself back every now and then.I Never wanted to loose myself.The liveliness, charm and “ME” is what I always wanted to keep alive . The struggle between me and Life was hard to survive !


All this, made me more tough.This is when I came to know what exactly it means  by fighting back.How does it feel when u undergo through all circumstances of life,I understood clearly  what it  is when we say our loved ones  “Everything will be fine” when things are in a bad state.The pain they might be undergoing  is something which we cant  feel  nor  can we imagine in our wildest dreams when we try to convince them to make them feel better..My value,respect,love towards few(including my parents) grew more and more everyday in this phase of  my life.


Trust me !!! Today I never regret the year of ups and downs I went through.I learnt at every single step from everyting and everyone and  now I know Whats my Life.I can give the Definition of my Life in my words with a meaning to every single word.Each word might be painful but I Love every bit of the pain , every tiny pinch of it where I never forgot my smile, I stood for myself .Today whatever I am,my Life is,I live it.


My Life has still continued the roller-coaster ride,So what! Life simply goes on :)

"Paint and brush" the bricks at office ..!!!!

Guys and Gals,


First of all I would like to say this write-up may sound extreemely silly to few of you out there, For a very simple reason that this is just a piece of my happy moment and all it includes is only a paint and a brush.I am sorry if this disappoints you.


It was like any other normal day, as usual woke up late in the morning (as I work in shifts)and my eyes were shocked to see the clock that was displaying time as 10 A.M. I rubbed my eyes hard, hoping that I might have seen the wrong time on the clock and I may have few more hours to sleep.(I am a lazy bug ) But time doesn’t wait for me..It was really five mins past 10 AM and I had to make myself available at the cab pick up point at 11A.M sharp.So one more hour to go!!!!!!! I had to be fast.


There  I put, the Music on, at a high volume.I luv getting ready with  some of my fav songs  on) and  then its  Brush Brush Brush !!! Morning Shower  made  me fresh,all ready  for a New Day.Then its Dress up  !!!!  Its fun to pull out clothes out  of  my  messy wadrobe (For me its not to look my best  or not to fit into a perfect outfit  to office but I just dress up the way I feel happy.I found a  tee and then grabbed a jeans …Was ready in a go… combed my hair !!! Breakfast (I hate to eat  as I stay away from home ,the food  I eat always makes me miss my mom)  So Breakfast will be the only thing that I can keep as an option to skip among all  other morning activities…So its always at the end, I don’t mind skipping my breakfast if its too late.


I made it to the  cab on time and reached my office …Walk towards my tower from the gate is not very short.On my way towards my tower I noticed few painters  painting the  bricks that was kept as an edge across the greenary…They were painting it yellow to all the bricks and then they painted the alternate bricks black so that it looked like the yellow-black combo.I always had an urge to paint(not on the sheet of paper which we usually do during our school days) but on the walls like the real professional wall-painters.Never got a chance .The moment  I saw them, I wanted to join them and do it ,but my friend refused as we were employees. I went to my ODC being disappointed.  


Work kept me busy and engaged. I forgot my eagerness  to paint.It was time for lunch…..I had to go to cafeteria and again I could see these painters doing their job sincerely in the hot sun..This time they had almost completed close to half …But I could notice the pending half left for painting and was wondering If I could get a chance.In between the crowded  employees  I could hardly do it..I was willing to paint but my friend  said “If it was college I would have asked them to give u a chance,But since we are professional employees here ,you better not do this” .


I had my lunch with my buddies and then got stuck up with work again.The same evening my colleague got a call to collect a courier near the gate.I joined my colleague but my intention was mainly to watch these painters and try to grab a chance..On the way towards  the gate I could see three-fourth of painting was done.We went and collected the courier .On our way back I could not resist requesting myself for the paint brush from them.My colleague stood a far off from me, waiting for me  as she found it embarrassing  … I dint give a damn to people who were passing by..I jus was eager to paint ..thats all I knew. I requested the painter  “Can I please paint a little?” .He smiled at me and handed the paint brush and paint to me .I started to paint a block ( among many blocks of bricks).The painter was standing next to me and still smiling.I was too happy to sit and paint.People who were passing by just grinned at me .I continued to paint.Dint realize it until my colleague standing far away screamed “Hey gal !!!!! Have any plans to continue ur work in IT?, If so, then lets go to ODC.Come soon.”Once I completed painting  the entire block with yellow colour I gave the paint brush back in his hands and said a big “Thank you” with a lovely smile .

I completed painting  the entire block with yellow colour and u wont believe how HAPPY I was the entire Day !!!! This  may sound insane as painting jus a little is no biggggggg deal at all but the entire day I had a smile on my face and I could feel the joy from within me.Its just a tiny thing to feel too happy for.May be that’s why we say “Do what you love to do, as it can give u the kind of happiness  that u can feel”.All such small kind of joy means a lot to me anytime anyday. Thanks to the painter who gave me a chance. Never forget that there is  a life behind the busy schedule of attending phone calls and meetings , Give time for yourself  to do things that u love, as life comes only once ,live it to the fullest.